Choices

How easy is to make our choices in life? I mean the real ones, the important.

How easy is to understand absolutely the conditions around you, to balance the consequences? How easy is to comprehend what will happen if you take this way or the other?

 

 

 It is not. When we are talking about choices, we must have in mind -except of the conditions- the character, the personal fears, the financial situation of the person and many other things.

I hate people you talk with them and the say easily and without thinking “this is your choice, “that was your own choice”…

People that criticize and always to put the blame on the others, considering them unable to make a correct choice. That have the solution for everyone else’s problems and they never talk about themselves. And especially hate people that without knowing the whole situation “spit” on your face the obvious solution, like you are a fool one and you cannot think the obvious.

 

 

Of course they don’t know the whole picture; of course you don’t have said to them the whole thing (maybe because you don’t want…), but they never think that they don’t have the right to express their opinion.

And of course you know the obvious and the ideal choice before of them. But you are inside the problem, they don’t. You know all the parameters, the real depth of the problem and you make a choice according to them and the current situation of course. The only thing you don’t need is one negative -quick and easy- opinion of a big mouth that considers that he has to express his opinion.

 

And of course he would make the best choice if were in your position. Of course he has the courage to go against all the obstacles for the perfect choice.

Yes! But he is not him. He doesn’t know anything about the real situation.

Unfortunately we are called to take the most important choices of our life under abnormal and difficult circumstances.  

 

 

We never have the clear mind to make a choice when the rope is around our neck. When we need money desperately, we shall borrow from the bank, even if the interest is very high. Of course, you know that is not the best choice, but your house is in danger. You don’t want to lose it. If, if, if, if… Yes, but you don’t care about ifs, you need money.  

When you are alone in the world and you live from your salary and you have to pay the rent, the one that chooses about you, is not the logic, but the fear, the insecurity and the practical daily expenses.

No one can blame you about the choice you make. Of you know how to handle the things, but the fear of not having money to pay the rent changes the choice. Oblige you to choice with a gun on your temple.

This is a choice you make. Of course. But what are the circumstances that determine this choice. Do you have any other options?  What are the options you have when you have to pay the rent?

Your fear doesn’t let you any options. Of course for the others are options, because they are not in your shoes and they don’t have the fear to press them.

Of course we always have the ability to make many different choices about a think, of course nobody oblige us (literally there is not a man with a gun to press you) to do this or that. Of course our choice is “our choice”, but I would like not to hear any criticism about anyone’s choice.

The one that makes the choice knows better. And especially better than his… judges.

And, you know? When you make one bad choice, you already know it, and the only thing that you don’t know is someone that hint you the “correct one”.