The utility of the Mistakes

Do we really let our mistakes to “teach” us?

Do we really use the mistakes of our life to build a better way of thinking, to correct our debilities and our reaction?  

Do our mistakes make us wiser?

 

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Paulo Coelho writes in one of his books that is something happens many time in our life, it is not a kind of punishment, but it happens to oblige us see what goes wrong and correct it. If, for example, my friends always betray me, I shall see it as personal misfortune. I shall start mewl “I’m not a lucky person, I am unfortunate, why me again, etc., etc.”

 

I’ll never think that it happens because I do something wrong. I mean I see that this person is not proper for me, I see his bad character, but I do nothing for them. So this thing happens again and again not to punish me, but to… teach. To show me that I need my own limits in my life that everyone respects, how to avoid improper persons.

But if I do the same thing many times, it means that I learn nothing from my mistakes.

Sometimes happen in our life very serious events, which change its route: a very bad illness, a loss of job, a death in our closer circle, a divorce…

After these very hard “buffets” of life, it’s supposed that we have to change our way of thinking. But do we really do it?

Ego is a very bad characteristic of the human nature. It is ego that never lets us think clearly and take the correct decision. This ego, combined with the personal fears and unfulfilled desires of every one, is the suitable environment for the growth of any kind of meanness and misery.

So, the buffet of life must be very-very hard or we must mature very-very much to permit ourselves to make a step on.

We permit to our mistakes to teach us under these two circumstances.

Yesterday, for example I remembered one of my colleagues at work that she had treated me very bad many times.

Personally, I don’t have any problem, because if you treat someone bad or yell to him or humiliate him, actually you don’t harm him. On the contrary, you show your own dreadful and uneducated character. You are the worst advertisement for your father and mother.

The problem was not exactly they way she was treating me, but the way she was doing her job. She couldn’t know how to work and for this reason she was mad with all around her. Finally, she lost her job (but after many years). When she went to another job (she tried many years to find one) she acted like before. She lost her job after four weeks.

She learnt nothing from her mistakes. And she is not the only one.