HOMBRES!

I was talking with a friend of mine here, whose mind is exactly the same with every other common man in the world.

According to our conversation he was afraid that if a girl that tells him “I love you” without being his girlfriend. He is afraid that this girl will expect from him something. He doesn’t know what, but he says to me that he doesn’t want to hurt her feelings because she is very precious to him. And if she has feeling for him, then he is in danger.

He cannot understand that there are many kinds of love.

I tried to explain to him that the verb love is acceptable in all kinds of relationships, another world that terrifies him. Relationship?

We call relationship any kind of relation we have will people: in work, in school, in the gym, in neighborhood, in bed, in life, any kind of relation.

In all these kind of human relationships, we put emotions: love, hatred, sympathy, compassion, passion, sorrow, affection, tenderness…

He cannot understand. Giving to man or a woman respectively a piece of chocolate that doesn’t mean automatically that you are lovers or she (he) will ask you to marry her (him).

We have feelings, because we are human beings and not animals, we have feelings because other people need our emotions. We have feelings because life without them would be like saltless food.

This fear of “commitment” for the male is born the same time with the original sin.

And it is impossible to delete it, like we cannot delete the original sin.

I couldn’t convince him for two basic reasons.

The first is this like I mentioned before, the “original fear” of men.

The second is that he didn’t (or he really don’t understand) want to admit that men are very hard. They can use a woman, have sex with her, going out with her, showing off her to their friends, taking the gifts that she buy for them, but they don’t want to give her not even one millimeter of their space. Not even one good word, one gesture of affection (and I don’t mean lovers’ affection), nothing, nothing.

They protect the territory harder than lions or dogs.

They accept any kind of service of woman (sex, reminding of friends birthdays, reminder generally, etc), but when it’s time to show any kind of human emotions, they don’t.

I don’t understand that any man, any man (short, tall, handsome, ugly, fat, thin, poor, rich, good, bad, young, old…) has the idea that women want to set their cap at them. I don’t know why any man thinks that he is in great demand.

Why he thinks that a woman’s dream of life is he.

Why he thinks himself so great.

The first thing that passes from my mind is the way that his mother grown him up to be the master of the Universe.

I really don’t know. But I think that it’s time to put their feet on earth and realize the situation. The real one. We are in the twenty first century and women live exactly as men. They have works, careers, good salaries, they chose the man that they have sex with, can understand the difference between good and bad lovers (you are not all Rocco Siffredi) travel alone. I don’t know what else can they see or live to understand that the things have changed.

How many years more they’ll think themselves the king of the word?

Women don’t wait the prince with the white horse anymore and they don’t kiss the frog hoping him to covert to a prince. Or better, they kiss many frogs, but no one becomes a prince (they have their own fairy tale too).

Cool down boys. The occultation of your feelings shows your big fear and insecurity only.

That means, exactly the opposite that you want to show.