Failure

What an awful world! What a hateful world. What terrible emotions raises. I think it is one of the most “lonely” words in the universal vocabulary, as no one wants it to accompany him.

But what exactly means failure and even when we say “ok, this is part of life and it helps us to mature and to be taught by our mistakes…”, do we really accept it? I think no.

Failure is the opposite of success.

But what exactly failure is?
Literally: Failure: 1. an act or instance of failing  or proving unsuccessful; lack of success: His effort ended in failure. the campaign was a failure. / 2. nonperformance of something due, required, or expected: a failure to do what one has promised; a failure to appear. / 3. a subnormal quantity or quality; an insufficiency: the failure of crops.

It is bad, it hurts, it is not acceptable, it is… For whom?

For the failed person sure! Why? Cause he sees his dreams to tumble down? Cause if he had succeeded this aim his life would be better? Cause he doesn’t have any other interesting in life that this one an only aim and now they are not able or strong enough to invent another? Because he is not able to accept the failure, cause he is not able to explain the failure or –finally- cause he doesn’t want to accept this failure in front of the others. The problem is the failed person or the others? These others that eternally care about the business of their neighbors and not theirs.

I just wander if failure hurts more if it is know or if it is hidden.

If I lose my balance and fall in my house, I’ll stand up, I’ll give some time to myself and after this, everything is going to be all right. After some minutes I’ll have forget it. But what will happen, if someone else is inside the room?

Of course I shall feel uncomfortable for more time than I’ll feel if I am alone.

So, a very big role plays the opinion of the others about of what we do and especially about what is the result of our actions.   

Everything is harder when it is revealed in front of the other’s eyes.

I was studying Spanish for six years and I decided to exam myself for my diploma after my professor’s prompt and grouch.

When I learnt the result of the exams I was at work. I told to a colleague, that it’s supposed that he was a friend of mine and he didn’t show any kind of happiness, not even a fake one. He murmured one justification and he close the matter. My family and my teachers went glad more than me.

For me, was a success. But what about my friend? Maybe he felt jealousy. But why? We were not competitors.

Yes, but sometimes “your success is my failure”. I had a degree in another language and I speak for instead of him that speaks only two…

Maybe that’s why any kind of failure hurts and tortures us. Because we cannot accept that we are common human people, with limited abilities, we are persons with small interestings, person that we don’t like to “torture” ourselves, giving him more skills and abilities. Knowledge needs effort and hard work.

But we cannot accept the fact that somebody will call us lazy or uneducated, or limited, or…

I think that failure hurts more, when the others are informed about this. Always the other’s opinion and always an enormous hurt EGO.

If we think any failure of our life, we shall see that in the whole concept the other’s opinion is present and plays an important role to the cure of it.

If we normally think about failure, we shall see that the really loser of it is our ego, our prestige and not our heart.

And this because failure is an veeeeeeeeeeery good way to learn life and to be taught by it. Maybe you think that this is a very banal opinion, but this is the naked truth!

Next time you’ll fail on something, think about. How do you feel when you think about this failure you personally and how do you feel about this failure you personally, but put the others on the circle.

Actually, failure is just a world that we overestimate and when we reach to be wise, we call it, simply, experience!