Stereotype or nature?

Yesterday I watch at last “Dolls” by Takeshi Kitano. It was very famous in my country.

I didn’t even know the story of the film.

“It is about absolute obedience” my roommate told me.

Yes, the movie was very special and its aesthetics was fantastic, but something bothered me. Something inside me…

For one more time the woman was the victim. The woman suffered. The woman cheated.

I don’t know. I was born girl, I grew up as a girl, but for me, I am not a girl.

I am just a HUMAN BEING.

Let me explain.

I hate the stereotypes and especially the ones that have to do with women, because I cannot find any reason to them. They give us nothing. They put them in our minds and they ruin us.

“Even if my husband has much money, I’ll continue working” (have you ever heard these words from a man). “Look at this heartless woman, she abandoned her children” (but this is normal for a father). I don’t want to continue, I think you understand very well what I mean.

I don’t understand this. I work not because I am a woman, but because I need money to live. As I don’t have any money, I work. If the other part has money, I don’t care, because this is not my money. I’ll continue work, because I don’t have any other choice. I cook my meals, because I have to eat, not because I am a woman. I clean my house; I do my shopping for the same reasons.

I don’t understand why I have to die from hunger if I am a man? What is this kind of intelligence that makes me able to fry and egg and a man no?

I have sex and I fall in love, because this is the human nature. Of course I have different way to approach them; of course I have different hormones…

My disagreement is that I cannot always be the victim. And I don’t know why the woman is the victim. Because of her nature or because of the stereotypes.

This lady in the movie almost paid with her life her love. I don’t care what happened after this action. If she died?

Who has the winner? Love? Nature. The stereotype?

She was not, this is dead sure.

Maybe she likes this way, because she, like me, reacts like a human being and not like a woman. But she was the lost one of the story.

This is what bothers me. That our mind (male and female) never works clearly.

Except of the natural reaction, there is something else: the stereotype (u can call it family, mentality, school, education, areas customs, nature, etc).

I don’t care how someone lives, if he is happy, but is he really?

This woman in the movie destroyed her life. How many cases like this you know that concern a man?

I am not against men. I consider that they are more perfect creatures than women, because her soul is clearer.

But man are there ones that “cultivate and keep’ the stereotypes. And we, the women are trapped in them because of our extreme emotion or because of lack of courage or because this is the only way we know.

I don’t blame anyone. I just write my opinion.

PS Stereotype is a Greek word. Sometimes I think that we gave all the bad things to the world (LOL)