Judge “Word”

“How bad to judge people by words?” asked me Mr. Winter.

What a question, my friend. When I read it, exactly the same moment I realized that this hard phrase is the truth.

This moment realized its meaning. Yes, Mr. Winter. We make lists in our mind and we start to criticize and judge people according to the detailed parameters of the list.

Ah, no! She is not so tall, if she had some inches more…

Unfortunately she is not blonde and I like blonde chicks!

I like powered men; they have a different kind of charm! Latin lovers are the best.

And the paranoia of the lists goes on…

Parameters, percentages, details, contracts, terms, all of these signs of our insecurity, personal complexes and our narrow-mindedness.

I want my man powerful (because I don’t have any power. I am not able to have any power. In this world the man is the boss and I accept it).

Oh, this woman is not sexy, she is 35 now (and I am 35 too and I have 10 more kilos than the normal and I she’s better than me. I cannot change, because I am 35 and I am the man. Man is not necessary to be thin or beautiful. And I’ll never have this woman anyway, so I have to “reduce” her as I cannot “reduce” myself!)

We don’t let our heart or our mind to see the other person. The words judge it before we think: tall, short, rich, poor, sexy, ugly, dark skinned, American, woman, career woman, kinky, cold, dangerous, etc., etc., etc., etc...  

Just after a look, we want to complete the list.

The words are more powerful than the substance. Word against person!

What an unfair and hard battle. But we continue it.

The problem is that no one has time to think nowadays, no one wants to think or no one can think?

Why we still let the WORD rule the WORLD? Why we permit to these silly childish stereotypes to direct our lives?

Because this is very difficult to admit that we have defects. It is easier to see it to the others. And finally because just a little percentage of people knows exactly what it wants from its life.

All the others we try to find who we are and what we want until the day we die.

But the positive in this story is that no one can cheat himself forever. There are some moments especially before we sleep every night that we make e review of the day and then we realize who we are.

And then every weak person cannot see the bad part of itself and continue to think that it is perfect. This is a clinical case.

But the person that thinks, stop to cheat himself and the next day start one more time the fight against the WORD.  

Isn’t it GOOD LUCK?

PS. Mr. Winter you had to be the writer of this blog, not me. You have all the good ideas!